It's natural to evaluate our activities in life.  But when that capacity for self-evaluation turns harsh and we begin to label ourselves with generalizations such as, "I'm stupid," "I'm a failure," I'm fat and ugly," that's judging yourself, and

"When you judge yourself, you break your own heart."

I work to defuse negative judgments and avoid putting myself in a mental box.

To avoid this mind litter, I say to myself:

"That's not me."

The harsh voice itself isn't really me. That voice is just an echo of past insults,
maybe from a parent, a sibling, etc. that I wound up mentally adopting. Just a bunch of mental toxic refuse
that has nothing to do with the true essence of who I am.

What the voice is saying also isn't accurate. We can't sum up one person, especially ourselves, with a single word or label. People are much more complex than a harsh judgment, or even for those reverse generalizations such as,
"I'm great." "I'm the best." "I'm better than..." Those can give needless pressure to live up to them,
disappointment when we fail to do so, or arrogance when we do.

We can get out of the mental box by refusing to label ourselves, and refusing to adopt labels others try to apply to us. We can just do what we need and want to do with our attention in the present moment. Then, see how it goes, evaluate what we did, and move on.  It will lighten your load. 

But if "That's not me," then who are you?
What is the true essence of a person?

I believe that If my mind is clear and positive, I tap into the power of something vast and awe-inspiring, something far more powerful and capable than I can otherwise consider. My capabilities and sense of well being grow.

But if my mind is full of static and commotion, caused by negative self-talk, I’m out of the frequency of that power, which makes me more likely to experience misery, negative emotions  and a view of myself as small and limited.

                     
Human beings have this unique ability
to focus on things that aren't happening right now.

That allows them to reflect on the past and learn from it;
it allows them to anticipate and plan for the future;
and it allows them to imagine things that might never occur.

While we may believe we want to live in the moment....
most of us share the philosophy portayed by the following cartoon.

BUT, of course,
the only time each of us really has is right now.

  Thank You for coming here to read my Thoughts,
and
Thank You to those who share your own Thoughts with me.

Everybody wants to be beautiful,
but the definition of beauty is subjective.

Beauty is always judged by the receiver, but each of us
has an “inner-observer” that helps provide objectivity,
which is how individual perceptions of beauty,
....which factor in other characteristics such as personality and intelligence, ....
are often aggregated to form a consensus opinion.

Although beauty is subjective, our notion of what is beautiful
is also greatly influenced by the media, which leads us all to think
that having a fat free and svelte body is the ideal figure.

In fact, beauty is actually a combination of all the qualities of a person;
the things that delight the senses and
please the mind intellectually or emotionally.

In no particular order, here are a few things
to remind us how beautiful we truly are:

• Love makes you beautiful.
• Your good manners contribute to beauty.
• You’ve got a unique way of doing things and that makes you beautiful.
• Your eyes, hair, mouth, legs, shape make you beautiful.
• Your kindness and warmth makes you beautiful.
• Your smile makes you beautiful.
• Your good heart makes you beautiful.
• Your soothing or husky voice makes you beautiful.
• Your patience and empathy makes you beautiful.
• Your interest in others makes you beautiful.
• Your fashion sense and style makes you attractive.
• Your ripped abs and muscles makes you attractive.
• Your charisma makes you look beautiful.
• Pregnancy makes you beautiful.
• Your height (tall, short or average) makes you beautiful
• Depending on how you present them, at times even your flaws make you beautiful.
• Your friendly personality makes you beautiful.
• Your positive attitude to life makes you beautiful.
• The way you toss your hair, keep your nails, shrug your shoulders,
................walk upright, all contribute toward making you beautiful.
• Your specific interests play a role in your beauty.
• Your humility also makes you beautiful.
• Your overwhelming charm makes you beautiful.
• Your healthy eating habits make you beautiful.
• Your nice smell contributes to what makes you attractive.
• Wearing bright colors make you beautiful.
• Celebrating others and giving sincere compliments adds to your beauty.
• Your talents make you beautiful.
• Your thoughtfulness makes you beautiful.

Regardless of how you define beauty, you’re right.
Beauty is in the eye of the beholder…it’s subjective.
Nobody can prove that what you see as beautiful is wrong.