
Perfectionists are those people who strain compulsively and unceasingly toward unobtainable goals.
Pressuring oneself to achieve such unrealistic goals inevitably sets the individual up for disappointment. Perfectionists tend to be harsh critics of themselves when they do not meet the standards they set for themselves. Negative thinking surrounds perfectionism, in particular the "all-or-nothing" thinking in which a person believes that an achievement is either perfect or useless.
Perfectionism is:
* an all pervasive attitude that whatever you attempt in life must be done letter perfect with no deviation, mistakes, slip-ups or inconsistencies
* the irrational belief that you and/or your environment must be perfect
* a rigid, moralistic outlook that does not allow for humanism or imperfection
* the striving to be the best, to reach the ideal and to never make a mistake
* a habit developed from youth that keeps you constantly alert to the imperfections, failings, and weakness in yourself and others
* a level of consciousness that keeps you ever vigilant to any deviations from the norm, the guidelines or the way things are "supposed to be"
* the underlying motive present in the fear of failure and fear of rejection, i.e., if I am not perfect I will fail and/or I will be rejected by others
* a reason why you may be fearful of success, i.e., if I achieve my goal, will I be able to continue, maintain that level of achievement
* an inhibiting factor that keeps you from making a commitment to change habitual, unproductive behavior out of fear of not making the change "good enough"
* the belief that no matter what you attempt it is never "good enough" to meet your own or others' expectations
Irrational beliefs that contribute to perfectionism:
* Everything in life must be done to your level of perfection, which is often higher than anyone else's.
* It is unacceptable to make a mistake.
* If I have a failure or experience a set back in my efforts to change then I should give up.
* You must always reach the ideal no matter what.
* The ideal is what is real; unless I reach the ideal I am a failure.
* You are a loser if you cannot be perfect.
* It is what you achieve rather than who you are that is important.
* I have no value in life unless I am successful.
* There is no sense in trying to do something unless I can do it perfectly, e.g., "I don't attempt things I can't do well."
* There are so many roadblocks and pitfalls to keep me from succeeding. It is better just to give up and forget my goal.
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